I don't like to admit it, as I base so much of my Weekend Wisdom around positivity, but I have had a rather rubbish (maybe shocking would have been a better choice...) evening and I am hoping that as I try out each step from this guide, I'll be able to be slightly more cheery. Think of it as an experiment!
Yes, you heard me! I don't care what time of day it is- as long as you are at home and you have a bed at home- get in it. But, before you do, I would strongly recommend you get some yummy food. I quite like cookies, biscuits.... and more cookies. Once you get into your bed with the duvet over you, you should begin eating. For me, this is the starting phase of the calming down process when I am having 'one of those days.' As I sit there, I feel my body moulding itself into my soft mattress, whilst what can only be described as comfort eating allows me to eat away my troubles.......... just go with this- it sounds weird but it works.
If you're feeling rubbish, there is a high probability that if your environment isn't clean and relaxing, then you will find it harder to relax. Believe me, I HATE tidying my room and I am in no way recommend you do this. However, if you simply shove everything in a corner out of your eye line for the time being- the job is half done and you can focus on the more important thing- making your room your own relaxing hideaway from your stress. Personally, I like to only have my bedside lamp on and then a few scented candles dotted around the room. I know this may not be everyone's cup of tea, but if you can find something that you can add to your environment to calm you down, you will gradually feel yourself becoming more and more relaxed.
Some people may prefer to see this as 'doing an enjoyable activity,' however I see it as having an enjoyable distraction. In some cases when we are presented with a problem or stress, the best solution can actually be to leave it for a while and come back to it when you are in a better frame of mind. Therefore, it is essential that you keep your mind busy, BUT in a relaxed environment so that you can tackle the situation head on when you can manage it. Don't overcomplicate things- a distraction could be simply reading a good book, or chatting to a friend on the phone. The whole point of this guide is that you can personalise it to your own needs, meaning that you have to find an enjoyable distraction that will benefit you in terms of relaxation and having a positive frame of mind.
This pretty much speaks for itself, but when you are feeling down from 'one of those days,' you need something to put a smile on your face. You may not want to smile- I certainly didn't when I stormed into my bedroom earlier- but laughing is a simple way of making you feel better and forget why you were upset in the first place. I tend to find that having a mooch around YouTube and finding a cat video will do the trick for me!
After following the previous four steps in my guide, the last stage focuses on having some perspective with your life. Your day may have been awful, in fact it may have been horrendous- but can you bounce back from it? Look at how you are now, (hopefully) sitting in bed, with your yummy food, relaxing environment and distractions surrounding you. Do you still feel overwhelmed by your day from hell? Was your day really 'a day from hell' or a challenge that proved to be too difficult to cope with at the time? Asking yourself these important questions will help you to establish a clear mindset about the situation and enable you to cope with future situations.